Wedding Vows

The words to represent your union

Have you started to think about your wedding vows yet? Are you going to use traditional wedding vows or write your own? There are so many different directions you can go with your vows.

Traditional Wedding Vows

Weddings are largely built on tradition. Wedding vows as we know them are based on Christian tradition and originated in the Book of Common Prayer which was originally published in 1549. This book outlined proper procedures and prayers for weddings, baptisms, funerals, and much more. You may see small tweaks in the vows over the years but they are still very similar to the original wording.

Some couples will pick these vows because generations before them said these words. They might like the sentimental feel of knowing their parents and grandparents uttered the same words. Other couples might like the simplicity and truth to these vows.

Writing Your Wedding Vows

Many couples choose to write their own vows. They want the words to come from their heart and outline the commitment they are making to each other. If you need a bit of help in writing your vows, you can follow this guide:

1. Talk about who your partner is to you
2. Profess your love
3. Make a commitment to be by your spouse’s side
4. Share a special memory
5. Make a promise to your other half

Keep your vows to 1-2 minutes in length. You want to speak from your heart and be concise.

As you are writing these vows, you may find inspiration by reading examples. Don’t get too attached to these examples though because your relationship is unique to the two of you. Don’t feel like you need to copy someone else.

Reading vs Reciting Your Vows

You’ve written your vows. Now it’s time for the ceremony. Do you read your vows or recite them? There is a lot going on during your wedding event. You may have to attend to a few details the day of. You are going to have loved ones there that you don’t get to see often. You are going to be emotional. I encourage couples to read their vows. You don’t need the added pressure of having to remember these vows. Also, you are more likely to breathe and project your emotions in the moment if you are reading your vows. Once you’ve put in the work of writing the vows, I recommend that you let go of the pressure and be there in the moment.

I always love watching wedding ceremonies and seeing the personalities reflected throughout the union. This is such a special day and unique to your relationship. I’m honored that I get to be a part of the joining of your families. If you are looking for a wedding venue in East Tennessee, please reach out. Our estate at The Carriage House is beautiful all throughout the year. I’d love to give you a tour and see if we are a good fit for your vision.

All my best,

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